How it works
How Do We Match turns two private answers into one shared check-up
You answer. Your partner answers. Separately.
Then Do We Match brings both perspectives together: where you truly line up, where you may only seem aligned, and which differences deserve a real conversation.
The result is a relationship check-up, not a verdict.
How it works
You answer 16 questions. The questions cover money, family, parenting, future goals, conflict, attraction, and intimacy.
Your partner answers separately. They use a private invite link and do not see your submission while answering.
You receive a shared result. The comparison shows an overall match score, topic-level patterns, and the areas most worth talking through.
Matchie can take you deeper. Optional paid analyses and private deep-dives use relevant context to explain patterns and ask follow-up questions.
Your partner receives the shared comparison, not a copy of your full submission.
The six parts of your match
| Area | What it explores |
|---|---|
| Money | Shared versus separate finances and when spending becomes a joint decision |
| Family | Access, boundaries, loyalty, and what gets shared during difficult periods |
| Parenting | Whether to have children and how difficult parenting moments might be handled |
| Goals | The kind of future and everyday life each person wants to build |
| Conflict | Space, reassurance, repair, and the timing of resolution |
| Chemistry | Attraction, sex, intimacy, and how accurately each person reads the other |
You do not need identical answers to be a good couple. The point is to see whether a difference is flexible, negotiable, or fundamental — and whether you can talk about it honestly.
What the score means
The match score is a directional summary of how closely the two submitted answers align across the six areas. It is designed to surface patterns worth discussing, not to predict whether a relationship will last.
Closer answers generally indicate more alignment; larger differences point to topics that may deserve a conversation. Read the score together with the topic-level results and context, not on its own.
Where Matchie comes in
A number can point to a gap. It cannot hold the conversation for you.
Matchie, our AI relationship consultant, is designed for that next step. In optional paid features, Matchie can use relevant context from the test to:
- explain a pattern in plain English;
- ask adaptive follow-up questions;
- help each person describe what sits underneath an answer;
- suggest conversation starters or exercises for the topics you choose.
Matchie does not make the relationship decision for you. AI-generated content can be incomplete or wrong, and it is not therapy, diagnosis, clinical advice, or a safety assessment.
Why we ask these questions
The six areas reflect recurring relationship decisions: how people handle money, family boundaries, children, future direction, conflict, attraction, and intimacy.
Relationship research helps explain why these topics are worth discussing. It does not validate the Do We Match questions or score as a predictor of whether a relationship will last.
For readers who want the sources:
- Financial disagreements have been associated with divorce outcomes in longitudinal married-couple research, which supports discussing money carefully but does not predict an individual couple. Dew, Britt, and Huston (2012)
- Partner perception research has found both accuracy and assumed similarity, which is one reason separate answers can reveal useful differences. Kenny and Acitelli (2001)
- A large analysis across 43 longitudinal couples datasets found that relationship quality is complex and that changes were difficult to predict from the self-report variables studied. Joel and colleagues (2020)
- The Gottman Institute’s research overview discusses recurring conflict and the way couples manage ongoing differences. It is background for the topic, not validation of this test. Gottman research overview
Privacy and access
Pairing and report links are time-limited. Keep them private.
Relevant content may be processed to create the shared result and any optional AI feature you choose. Safeguards are used to limit reproduction of a partner’s raw answers, but generated output cannot be treated as an absolute technical guarantee.
Read the Privacy Policy for current retention periods, paid extensions, and request options.
What this test cannot tell you
Do We Match cannot determine whether your relationship is healthy, safe, or likely to last. It cannot measure coercion, abuse, respect, or the full history between two people.
Answers can also change with mood, stress, life stage, and interpretation. Use the result to choose the next conversation — not to outsource the decision.
The best way to use your result
Start with the topic that surprised you most and ask:
- Did we understand the question the same way?
- Where would this difference show up in ordinary life?
- Is it flexible, negotiable, or fundamental?
- What would each of us need to feel heard?
The score is the beginning. The conversation is the point.